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You see, when I speak about confidence, I speak about that confidence that helps you speak to that person, even though they are well-known and have following, many times fold than you do and you know could help you. The confidence of knowing you are enough and you don’t need to prove anything to anyone. The confidence that helps you believe more in yourself, knowing that rejection, no matter how frequent, is just to build you bolder. The confidence of, “I’m open to learning, it’s just the best way to grow if you’re wise”. The confidence that makes you vulnerable and strong at the same time. I speak about that confidence that helps you make that call and chat to the guy who’s going to approve your proposal and once that rapport is built you’re done. I speak of that confidence, which gives you the edge and faith to do it anyway, even though you’re thinking that you’re not fit and qualified but you slammed it when you gave it a shot. I am talking about that confidence that suddenly gets you in the boardroom with executive clients that took you years to figure out, just because of that one call that you made or perhaps, that Facebook messenger text…
I’m talking about that confidence that helps you turn practice in into profits in hours and suddenly turns what you once thought impossible or feared intensely, into your ultimate reality.
It works for me!
It’s all in your daring to dare. 


Why do you think you are the right candidate for this role?

Why do you think you are the right candidate for this role?

This is one of the most common questions recruiters ask applicants, if they ever get shortlisted to this stage of the interview process. Surprisingly, many leaders get to be asked this same question as they rise in ranks and begin to command authority, but not very many seem to bother to answer; most especially, when it is muttered beneath the breath of their team members.

Truly, as a leader, do you honestly ask yourself, if you’re the right person to be holding your position? Great leaders reflect on their everyday performance by engaging in a lot of self-awareness exercises, listening more than they speak and asking for feedbacks, as well as engage their team members in constructive feed forward process, which makes everyone resoundingly be on the same page with the goals, visions and expectations of the team.

How do you continuously demonstrate that you are indeed right to be a leader? What examples do you constantly lay down, for how things should be done? What sort of influence do you have on the people with whom you work?  

These are three key questions every leader must be able to clearly answer, for an insight into how deserving you are, of having people to lead.

 What most leaders don’t understand is that the outcomes of their team members, in terms of the goals achieved, results recorded, income generated, customer satisfaction, etc., is a direct reflection of the leadership quality.

Whilst most of us, as leaders, believe in the power and the opportunity to appraise team members, review their performance and perhaps judge behaviour, maybe an in depth investigation of, “what about me, is being reflected here?”, should be a point of reckoning, when next you need to carry out any of these leadership tasks.

It is always rewarding whenever you’re able to reflect on events just gone, achievements in the past year, and consider the learning for you and your team members, which leads to a joint plan of action moving forward. 

How this helped

Over the years, I discovered that being open to discussing leadership skills and how it affects job performance made my team performed better, instead of throwing tasks at them and expect to review performance after tasks have been completed. It became my common practice to remind team members that, e.g., “being able to submit a quality report by deadline, not only shows that you have sound time management skills, it helps you demonstrate that you are preparing yourself for something greater, even if it takes a while.” Instead of just throwing tasks and stipulating that it has to be presented by certain timescale, I attach snippets of what a great outcome would mean to them as individuals, engaging their sense of responsibility and personal accountability. 

Answers to key questions

I genuinely made it a thought point that people are extremely complex to manage and handle. Hence as individuals, we all have different needs, motives, aspirations, abilities and expectations. So, in continuously demonstrating that I deserve to lead the people I lead, I approach each individual as a unique person, understanding well too, that people’s emotions affect their approach to work and their performance at work.

The bottom line to effective leadership is achieving envisioned results. Hence, when I put my focus on a vision, I ensure that I remain tenacious, carrying everyone along to demonstrate that only through dedicated team work can any proven top-notch results can be achieved. I let my team members understand that greatness demands more than your strength, but your ability to work with others, constructively.

If you are not clear on the type to influence you have on your team members, why not ask intentionally, “how do I feel, when I’m engaging, giving tasks, asking for suggestions, asking for help to solve a problem,  or holding a meeting or appraisal or supervision with members on my team? The easier the answers come, the easier it is perhaps for them too to answer similar questions about you and hence, the level of influence you have with them. What feelings go through your team members when you are around or when they remember you’re their leader? I answer these questions with ease and resounding positive energy, not because I don’t have my ups and downs in managing a team of people, whom originally would have loved to have one of them be their leader, before I came to change the picture, appearing after a sudden shake up due to low productivity and performance. Not because it was comfortable having team members, regularly try to point out where I had gone wrong, even when I was figuring out the most effective ways for everyone to maximise their potentials. Yes, it may feel tough initially, but to gain trust and build loyalty, you must be consistent in showing that you also care about their side of the ‘rut’, and not just the capitalist interest of the organisation or about keeping my job. This worked in my favour. 

I can help you do same

If you take time out to really focus on the three key questions I asked above, and find your genuine answers, this can be the start or enhancement of a painless leadership reign for you. The chances are that you are still very defensive, like most leaders are and pointing the blame finger on the inadequacy of your team members. This will not help and you’ll probably stay in the havoc-loop for a longer time.

You may want to do a little reading around the subject of smart leadership, to strengthen these insights or checkout this resource on transformational leadership. This should lead you towards a genuinely diverse team, where everyone has differing strengths and are nurtured as such.

As you may know by now, I have a track record in managing teams and helping senior managers achieve better results from their team effectively, which is why I’m always passionate about talking leadership and I’m always happy to work with you to raise the game with your team members.

I must point out that understanding and embracing the need for optimal consciousness and personal development in my life and business was pivotal to achieving success in effectively managing teams and also building a formidable coaching and training business and this too, I can help you achieve.  If you choose to explore this topic further, I will be happy to share greater insights with you. Why not let’s connect on LinkedIn, or join our community of thriving Stress-Free Business Leaders.

Can Leaders Truly Be Vulnerable?

vulnerability, has always been a topic with different dynamics and
stemming lots of conversations, because many leaders still struggle
with ‘letting it out’, with their team members. Recently, I was
giving a presentation to about two hundred and fifty business
leaders, in the health care industry, and over half of the
participants agreed that they struggle with openly seeking for help
from team members and worse still, are not comfortable talking to
team members about organisational challenges, apart from discussing
general and specific productivity and performance related issues with

Over 70% of the
participants believed that when they sit around the table with team
members and say things like, “We have a problem reaching our
targets and all our strategies seem to have failed, who has any ideas
to help us move forward?” They are seen to be pushing management
responsibilities on the entire team or giving room for team members
to take undue advantage in carrying out duties or abiding with
policies and procedures, as a comeback for helping out during the
crisis period.

No doubt,
hierarchical structures in organisations have long, held leaders from
fully being authentic, in showing up as real leaders, as this may be
seen as less professional or breaking boundaries. In reality, the
lack of genuine team building activities in organisations, has done
more harm than good, as this reduces staff engagement levels to the
core, which causes the stillness in motivation and inspiration.

Unfortunately, the
lack of understanding of what constitutes staff engagement has made
it impossible for leaders to be able to connect with their team
members, and get the best from them. Instead, leaders build a wall
of seclusion, which translates to the team members, as “they know
it all, they have it all”, causing stronger disconnection and
unrealistic and grandiose expectations by employees and when these
are not met, the cycle of low morale and low performance continues to
be deeply entrenched within the organisation.

Where does
vulnerability lie, here? Vulnerability lies in the fact that leaders
are unable to maintain genuine connections with team members, and
genuine connections are things that engage and make team members feel
part of the organisation they work for. It is absolutely correct
that, engagement can have a significant impact on the performance of
the organisation, driving bottom‐line profit and enabling
organisational agility, as well as improved efficiency in driving
change initiatives.

To be able to lead effectively, leaders must be able to demonstrate empathy, which helps
you understand others’ situations, thereby making it easy for you
as the leader to tailor team members’ strengths and weaknesses via
the best channels for maximum productivity and performance. In doing
this, you must be willing to trust team members enough, to assign
tasks that will challenge and bring the best out of them, yet
empowering them in dignifying ways. To achieve these with little or
no stress, you must be willing, as a leader, to give a piece of your
self by being vulnerable. Brené Brown, an expert on social
connection, conducted thousands of interviews to discover what lies
at the root of social connection. The research revealed that
vulnerability, was a key factor in building great connections, both
in the professional and personal world. Vulnerability here does not
mean being weak or submissive. To the contrary, it implies the
courage to be yourself. It means understanding the truths in our
world. Which is, ability to come to terms with uncertainty, risk, and
emotional exposure, and when a leader is open to this, impacting
others and making change, becomes seamlessly within grip.

Here are few tips to
cultivate vulnerability as your strength:

Admit that you do
not know everything and don’t have the solution to every problem –
Being able to admit and share times of weakness, as a leader, will
earn you trust and present you as being authentic. Creating a stance
of ‘ know it all’, only shows that you’re claiming to be
perfect, which in the real sense, is just an illusion. Showing
weakness and not hiding from imperfection lets others know that you
are simply human.

responsibility when mistakes occur – You will protect your
credibility as a leader, when you are able to accept responsibility,
when you make errors, instead of finding someone else to blame it on.
Leaders who play the blame game, only have very little time, before
they lose credibility and loyalty. Further, taking responsibility,
gives you a sense of leadership that allows you to take time to
analyse and consult on how to make progress towards accomplishing the
goals set.

Practice empathy –
People who are skilled at understanding others’ feelings and
situations are more likely to be viewed as effective leaders. A study
by MRG found that empathy was the single strongest predictor of
ethical leadership, which is why leaders who are empathetic, are able
to motivate teams to do their best work, because they create an
atmosphere that is non judgemental, but empowering.

Don’t wait for the
company to crash before you seek help, suggestions or tell your team
members the truth about the situation- Teams are the greatest assets
any organisation have and to add value to these assets, leaders must
build teams that are formidable, effective and trustworthy. This can
only be achieved if team members are treated with trust, a sense of
value and are well supported to deliver their tasks to the best of
their abilities. Leaders who build their teams on very strong
precepts, will have no fear or guilt, telling them the truth about an
organisation’s standing when crisis arise, because they would all
have been working under shared terms.

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Five Ways You Can Propel Your Self -Worth For Success

Do you know that constantly worrying about what others think about you or the way you live your life, is self-debilitating, particularly when you know that you’re doing no harm to anyone? So, why seek approval and recognition? You don’t need it!

Stop getting overwhelmed by the expectations of others, instead, live your life purposefully, believing in your everyday actions. What’s the point of you looking everywhere for approval, when the best insights and approval for what’s great and not lies, right in your heart. Too many times, you disapprove of yourself or even criticise your efforts just because you set your standards and validate your actions by what you see and hear from other people.

So, what happens when you do that? You run your emotions high, causing inner conflicts that do nothing but increase distraction and distort your ability of intense focus on what’s important and what matters most, which is why your desires don’t match your results and realities. By setting parameters that don’t align with your truth, you jeopardise your efforts, bring upon yourself, a great deal of self doubt, low self – confidence, low self-esteem and self-sabotage, because you unconsciously disempower your thoughts to think the magnitude of your strength.

To amp up your confidence and propel your self worth, take a five day challenge, that will help you achieve your goals and ensure your success.

Here are five other things you need to do.

Love yourself endlessly: You should understand that no matter how hard you try, no one can love you more than they love themselves, which is why you should love yourself unconditionally, to save yourself. When you are able to love yourself without limits, you will be empowered with so much abundance that giving back will become effortless. On the other hand, not loving yourself will continue to spill out the lack in you, and no matter how hard you try to hide, it rears its ugly head in different areas of your life and the worst bit is that, you will not serve your interest and will not be of great service to others, even those you care about.

Challenge your inner critic – There’s always a voice inside us telling us we can’t do it right, or that we’re not fit for the challenge. Yes! We all have that voice creeping in every now and then, but the truth is, the voice continues to rant and gain power, when we allow it. This voice means good, though, trying to protect you from what does not seem familiar and comfortable. It tries to keep you safe by putting you in a ‘no contest mode’, so that  you don’t fret and get blown away by the size of the greatness that lies ahead of you. However, Staying in this ‘no contest zone’, only separates you and your possibilities, and if you must achieve your goals and live far beyond the limits your inner critic wants to cap on you, then you must challenge it, each time it tries to keep you bound to letting go of your dreams.

Set yourself up for success –   What’s your biggest win so far? How many times do you motivate yourself with your previous wins, as an incentive to believe in your abilities and strive forward. Most times, when we feel less confident, it is based on reflections about the times we failed or when our performance did not measure up. So, next time when you’re feeling less confident, anchor your courage to push harder with a sweet memory of when you were successful, no matter how long or how insignificant the achievement may seem to you.

Never stop learning: You may wonder how learning connects with boosting self worth and confidence, but it sure does. Knowledge is the one thing you possess and no one can snatch away from you. You express yourself with what you know, both internally and externally and can also use your knowledge as a tool of empowerment and also to help others. All of these are things that will in turn increase your self-worth and confidence.

Believe in yourself: Get tips here on how to believe more in yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself, of course no one else will and this starts from your willingness to give yourself the opportunity to try new things without judgement and also to know that you are not infallible. The amount of times you’re willing to give yourself another chance, regardless, will invariably show how willing you are to strengthen your strengths and eventually begin to show up and achieve whatever goals or dream you want to achieve in the end.

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Seven ways to turn your secret idea into a reality

Do you have a secret desire you want to achieve, that makes you fret when you have to tell people about it? Or are you so scared that you find it hard to talk about it to others, so that they don’t say you are weird or put you down for it? The truth is, we all have some secret desires that we want to accomplish at some point in our lives, but due to fear of failure or rejection, we allow our dreams go under. Making a choice between doing what it takes and going head on to achieve our goals and allowing fear and judgements from other people hold us back, is such a great choice, which is why many people choose to stay with the crowd, because that is an easier but more costly choice.

When you allow external influences overshadow your intuitive instincts, you will be forced to buy into their lifestyle, problems and patterns, killing your alternative thinking ability, hence making you develop a thinking error, known as mere-exposure effect. This refers to the brain’s tendency to believe something is true and good just because we are familiar with it, regardless of whether the situation is actually true and good.

Sometimes, it’s the negative thoughts of how less capable you are, or how inexperienced and other related lines of thoughts that hold you down and even makes you quit. Thinking negative thoughts is no doubt a killer and allowing to germinate in your mind is like building a house in a swamp, sooner or later, it will sink in and get lost, underneath. To avoid that, make a habit of consciously stopping negative thoughts from your mind, when they creep in.  

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5 Sure Fire Ways to promote Your Website For free

Getting found on the internet is the hallmark of any online
business, as this is how millions of audience can get to know and do business
with your company.  Take online
visibility as the navigation to locate you on the map. Imagine you were going
somewhere you’d never been before  and necessarily
don’t have specifics about it, so you just typed in a general location or place
in your navigator, definitely, it’s going to give you a list of related
locations,  and then you will choose
exactly where you are going or the closest result.

In the same way, people looking for businesses like yours
would type in a general term relating to your business and will have to choose
from the results they get-  so, your duty
is to ensure that you find a place in these results, otherwise no one will be
able to find your business.

In essence, the more visible your company is, online, the
more likely people within your industry will look to you for necessary products
or services.

Many small business owners struggle with this aspect of
online marketing and think it’s confusing and that’s because there is too much
information on the internet without clear explanation.

In this article, I will share five simple ways you can
increase your company’s online visibility for free, yet with great results.

Utilize SEO tools: SEO- stands for Search Engine
Optimization, and since we are talking about searching and finding your website
online, I guess you know that SEO is indeed very important and the way you do
this is by injecting content and key words that points back to your website on
the internet. You can use different free online tools to check how well your
website comes on in search results and when you know this, you constantly
improve your visibility using these other methods. There are hundreds of free SEO
tools online, including the Google webmaster and analytics and Bing web master
tools, to monitor analytics and performance of your website. Check out other
ways to improve your online visibility here.

Publish fresh, relevant content regularly:
Ensure that you publish fresh content on your website regularly and also update
your content from time to time. Google crawls all websites on the internet for
fresh and new content, which is what will help your website to rank higher on
Google search algorithm. Except people specifically know your website, they
would only type in general terms, phrases or words in Google search engine and
this will only populate the most relevant ones. So, to regularly appear in
searches relating to what you do, updating your website with relevant content
is crucial.

digital content on external sites: Publish value added materials such as
videos, images, slides, PDFs and audios on external websites such as Youtube,
Google images, slideshare, and the likes. Your content gets to much more
audience, promoting your website and also giving you backlinks in search engines

Do social – Social media is a must if you must
continue to attract fans and online subscribers to your brand. While your
online fans may not necessarily become customers, it’s a good place to
demonstrate your expertise and authority in your industry.

Use outbound and inbound links so Google can
index cached pages: This is a great way to appear well in Google’s search.
Outbound link is when you add external link to content on your site, pointing
to other domains and websites. When you link out to related domains, it not
only helps the search engine to understand your niche, but also helps to
increase the trust and quality of your site which plays a vital role in your website’s
SEO. Inbound links on the other hand is when you have links from other sites
linking back to your website and this can be obtained free in a number of ways.
You can do this by writing guest posts on other websites or by placing details
about your website on other website, thereby, giving you backlinks. These links
also raise your website’s visibility when done well.

For more ways to increase your company’s online visibility,
check out these resources. Know that this takes time and it requires consistent
action, if you want your company to continuously be visible online. 

Field Notes: CMS Africa Summit

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Automatticians, the people who build WordPress.com, participate in events and projects around the world every day. Periodically, they report back on the exciting things they do in the community.

This year’s CMS Africa Summit was my third attendance at this amazing conference. My colleagues Marjorie, Sarah, Hannah, and Luminus joined me for the event and in doing so we sent Automatticians from three different continents.

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For several years now, Automattic has been the title sponsor for CMS Africa Summit. After conferences in Kenya (2015) and Uganda (2016), the 2017 edition took place in Abuja, Nigeria. The team behind the summit consists of industry leaders from all three of those countries. Together they also represent some of the world’s most popular open source content management systems (CMSs): Joomla, Drupal, and (of course) WordPress.

As one of the tech hubs in Sub-Saharan Africa, Nigeria is leading

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10 simple ways to say no

One of the reasons people get tied down to where they do not want to be, is because they have refused to say no to those circumstances that have continually tied them down. Whether it’s a human factor or a situation that looks hard to deal with, learning to say no at the right time, place and in the right manner, gives you much more fulfillment and relief. The ability to say ‘NO’, also clears the path for you to live without blaming yourself or getting unnecessarily angry at yourself.

Your inability to say no will affect your productivity and efficiency, being the result of taking on too many commitments, and when you take on too many things at a time, excellent performance becomes compromised. Do you have difficulty saying “no”? Are you always trying to be nice to others at your own expense?

Well, you’re not alone. For some reasons, many people have ditched the word ‘no’, to hurt themselves while they please others. This is not to say that you should not be nice to people, but do not be unfair to yourself while being nice to people.


Why you find it difficult to say “NO”.


You don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings – Saying ‘no’, necessarily doesn’t mean hurting other people’s feelings. It all depends on how you say it and your intent for saying no. Although you do not have to justify your reason for saying ‘no’, it is a great Personal development practice to ensure it’s best for you when you do so.


You don’t want to disappoint the person you’re saying ‘no’ to: We all get disappointed once in a while, and even nature as taught us to live by disappointments sometimes; when you can’t help it, acknowledge it, and let the other person know, it’s because you can’t just fit it in. 


Willingness to help: Sometimes, we feel the urge to help, even if the weight pulls us down. Imagine a Camel on the Sahara, each time it takes on this particular luggage, it walks six steps and then it goes down, for three consecutive attempts it happened so, isn’t it time to take a break? That is exactly what happens to you when you aim to help out, even though you are not capable of helping out. Identify it, say it nicely and free your mind. If you go ahead, you may stop mid-way and that hurts more on both sides.


You want to keep a long lasting relationship- If you must know, what preserves good relationship is being true and honest right from the outset. When you continually please people for the wrong reasons, you will someday come to a point, where you can go no further and this is when you begin to disappoint those you have always wanted to please unjustifiably. You however have a duty to live up to it and take the step, knowing how to say no.


Don’t want to be rude: This is simply a ‘mind -set’, that when you say ‘no’, you are being rude. Saying ‘no’ does not necessarily mean being rude, rather the manner with which you say it determines rudeness and not just saying no, and that is why you need to learn how to say ‘no’ nicely.


You want to be seen and called “Nice“- The only nice thing about being nice is sincerely feeling and being soulfully nice.


 To avoid  conflict: No matter how hard you try, some people just want you to accept whatever they want you to do and never seem to understand your  point of view. For this reason, or just because you assumed so, you feel jerky there might be a conflict  if you reject him/her. What I will say is; try avoid any form of confrontation, try to say’ no’, as politely as you can, hold on to the fact that, it’s simply because you can’t afford to help the person, and sooner than later, you will feel the inner peace you deserve.

Over time, I have come to realize that these reasons people fear to say no,  are basically, misconceptions. Saying “No” doesn’t mean all these things above, and do not necessarily create a negative atmosphere. These are all false beliefs that have been built in the mind over time.

10 Simple Ways To Say “No”

Rather than have it as a burden on you, just follow these simple ways to turn down things or situations you sincerely can’t help.

1. “Sorry, I will not be able to this at this time.” 

2.”No, I can’t.”

3.”This is not a really good time as I’m in the middle of something.” 

4.”I will be privileged to assist once I complete this project”.

5.”No, not now, you may get in touch later”.

6. “I’d love to do this, but …”

7.” I’m fully booked at the moment, and will not be able to take up more responsibilities”.

8.”I’m not the best person to help on this.” 

9.”How could you expect me to do a thing like that for you?”

10.”I wish I could help…”

 Learning the art of saying no, may save more than the burden of getting overworked and having to live with limitless commitments.