How to know when to quit

time to quit pixIt’s been three months and two weeks and right now I’m feeling utterly frustrated with a project I’ve been working on. I accepted to join my colleague on her project because I thought she will inspire me more for a similar project I will be starting soon and on the other hand she wanted my support for her project. For me, I thought I will spend a bit of my spare time helping out and expanding my knowledge and trying out something new so, I accepted. I knew the project will turn out commercially viable, but did not bother to set specific structure to work with her. Why? Because she is my colleague and I was in the project for nothing other than help out, have fun and explore. Three months into the project, I realized I had invested more time than I had planned to do, with virtually no financial or moral reward and seriously eating up my time, that my other work suffer. At this point you may already begin to judge me but wait a minute. There was absolutely nothing stopping me from checking my inputs and making the necessary adjustments and balance that I needed and there is no maximum price for keeping a relationship, I was just uncomfortable with events as I was sabotaging my productivity with regards to my personal business and other work related issues. However, my friend was enjoying my support and I was seeing how much it meant to her to have her project completed at the right time. So, I continued to squeeze on. Near completion; as a matter of fact, completed, just the very last bit and my friend thinks the best thing to do now is to introduce her partner’s similar project into the scene and even telling me that it will be fine if we could finish her partner’s project in less time than we did hers. Brilliant idea, isn’t it? Then I knew exactly what was happening. No consideration whatsoever for me, because I failed to make my feelings known. But who’s to blame? Definitely me!
How incredible it is that some people do not consider others when they set out to fulfil their dreams or have their goals accomplished. You may have come across a similar situation but in a different way. It could be from work colleagues, friends, bosses, families, etc. Taking you for granted for the services you render out of sheer goodwill or even when your services are paid for, should have no place in your understanding, if you are looking any further to happiness and success in life. It definitely does not match the hard work you put in and worst of all, people of such attitude just think and behave as if everything is fine. It will forever haunt if you allow that situation to adversely affect any aspect of your life significantly and that’s where quitting comes to life. You always have the reason to quit whatever is not giving you the equilibrium to your emotions and physiology. I know that sometimes, we find it hard to quit something for very many reasons but at the same time, we continue to burn in the flames of our guilt and misjudgements when we fail to identify what’s best for us. In my case, a colleague who does not care for my welfare may as well not be a real one to deal with and the relationship may well have to be re-examined. When your energy is zapped unduly on anything you embark upon, this is one of the vital signs for you to know when to quit something. Think critically about what’s in it and if it doesn’t worth it, don’t force it.
Other signs to look out for when thinking of quitting include:
Regularly get frustrated:
When you are in a situation where all you feel is greater frustration than pleasure, this may mean that your time is gradually winding up and you may never make anything good of that project or situation. When you always feel that you’re no good for something or that your effort is not appreciated or just regularly taken for granted, know that it’s time to pack and go.
Whether your goal still render:
Check your goals and see if you are still on track, check your intentions and make sure nothing is being sabotaged. If you are diverting away from your goals, do a balancing test and go back where you ought to. If you find it impossible to achieve the goal you set for yourself, it’s better you quit and then restart with clearer visions because if you continue and get it wrong, you will start all over again, any way, but think of the time you may have wasted.
Are you true to yourself?
Many people got through a lot of stress for no reason good to their soul except to please others. The truth is you can actually not please anyone if you fail to please your soul. Whether you’re good or bad, people will judge you and sentiments will always sway. When you come to a point to decide whether to quit or not, listen to your heart and be true to yourself. You cannot change what people think about you no matter how hard you try, you can only change and choose how you respond to what people think about you. Accept yourself and be your best.

Stop being a perfectionist:
Do you care to be the best at everything or at least the best at all you do? Have you been hanging on a project, tweaking and adjusting things so that it comes out per-fec-to!? You may think you are putting so much effort at being success, while doing contrary because success does not need perfection. What you are indirectly going through is the fear of failure, which only probably is housed in your thoughts, beliefs and ways of doing things. Quit what is not working and allow yourself a fresh look on how to proceed in life.

When your passion wanes:
Whether it’s your job or working on a project; quitting ultimately may be your best option once your passion fades out. Without genuine passion for something, you are likely never going to be inspired enough to give it your best and when this happens, your efforts and time to continue could be as good as wasted.

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Believe in yourself

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It is a fact that to meet some of your life goals, you have to believe in your ability to face the challenges that will come by. Believing in yourself is the greatest weapon to achieving your goals no doubt, but often, low self-esteem and negative thinking can make you to doubt your abilities. It is essential that you live above the fear that is stopping you from believing in yourself, because if you don’t, you can’t get other people to believe in you.  When you believe in your abilities, you can then begin to build your confidence and strengthen your skills.

Self doubt and negative thinking are the two major factors that inhibit your self belief. This is because, self-doubt continuously steals away your confidence while negative thinking suppresses your mind from seeing all your great endowments and abilities.

Do you know that when you look inwards and begin to appreciate yourself, greater discoveries of your hidden treasures will begin to manifest in their multitudes, which will open up the truth about your own special unique attributes.

Every person is different in their own way and we all have what makes us unique as people, which is why you have to believe in yourself, because you have something to offer the world, which no one else has.

Unfortunately though, as much as you try not to allow self-doubt over take your consciousness, it sometimes find its way through and penetrates your reasoning, breaking the grounds on why you are not good enough or not capable of taking that stride you’ve always dreamt of.  It is quite understandable. It’s the fear of something deep. The fear of failure and rejection.

When you constantly fear to fail, invariably, you will fail by giving fear undue power over you. Life is about ups and downs and when you decide not to move ahead because of these slopes, you will find yourself nowhere.  So, you basically need to know that to achieve your goals, you have to decide to take great strides that may sometimes see you waddling  in mud, but you know what, you will feel stronger and better that you strived.

Learning a few tips to help you believe in yourself can make the difference you crave.

Understand your fear: Know exactly what makes you jitter when you think of doing something or achieving a particular goal, because when you can figure out what scares you about something, you will then be able to find ways to tackle the problem. Ask yourself, “why have I not done so and so? “What is stopping me from doing so and so?  If you practically ask yourself questions about why you are not taking actions, the answers will begin to fill up.

Think positive: Positive thinking is a great tool to tackle fear and low self-esteem because when you are able to see the positive side of you, the tendencies are that your abilities, strengths and weaknesses will be rationally judged and thought through. This will lead to clear understanding of what to expect from yourself and may help to decide how much effort you are willing to put through a challenge. Positive thinking helps to break the barriers of low self-esteem, lack of confidence and a lack of drive.

Set realistic goals:  Setting goals are very exciting ways to define what you want in life and are very useful in confidence building. However, fear is so creepy, if granted, will never allow you to set any goals at all.  Using goal setting tools to challenge yourself to action can prove really productive if you set goals that are realistic. Realistic goals are just goals that are attainable and not overtly idealistic. If you aim to build your business empire in as little as two months and hope to make enough profit by the third or fourth month to build 8 more branches around the world, altogether in six months, may be quite whimsy. At the same time, realistic goals are not about how easy you can achieve a goal, but how well the goal has helped you improve in your well-being, personal development, experience, abilities, knowledge, skills, relationship, etc, because if you set a goal that is so easy to achieve, you get anywhere in terms of achieving your overall life goals.

Be assertive–   assertiveness shows that you are able to speak for yourself and stand by your beliefs. Contrary to some opinions, being assertive is not about being rude to others or suppressive. It simply shows that you are confident and clear about what you are saying, doing or the point you are trying to prove. Being assertive rather that passive, will help you make better choices in life, as you will be able to live on your own terms, instead of seeking approval from others about how you want to feel, think or live.

Feed your mind: It is good to know that what you serve to your mind in terms of your thoughts, knowledge, perception of things, life and ways of doing things, all come together to prove your essence and substance. It is good to feed your mind with great knowledge, have wider outlook of issues and things around you, and fill your inner self with esteem and meditation so that you will blossom outwardly.

Facts you need for a rewarding life style

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Are you pleased with what life throws at you or are you struggling to find true peace within the world you live in? The truth is, the universe presents to you what you throw at it. No one has the power to dictate how your life rolls or what you feel. It is what you choose to do and the decisions you make that generally shape your experiences.

It is natural that you see a lot of raves and pressures from around you, but if you do not get yourself caught in the drama, you will not lose consciousness of what you want and what you deserve.    A lot of time, when we are struck with ‘unpleasant’ situations, we refrain the chorus “life is unfair”, but indeed, it is. What we get, is as a result of the decisions we have decided upon.  I used to believe firmly, that whatever situation I was going through was the work of nature and blamed everything that had happened to me, especially the negative situations I’ve found myself in the past, on ‘life’.

In my anthology of poems published in 2010, I wrote thus:

“Time has failed, yet it moves

Life is here, still we expect

Years have rolled, the waters of sob

Won’t stop the gush

Life is unkind…”

Although I wrote this poem and many others in the collection about a decade ago, they remind me of how I have denied myself so much peace both within and outside of me, but I am glad now that I know better and do really well especially with my feelings, which ultimately transforms into great thoughts and actions.

I am not the only one who has had to go through situations that were unpleasant, in fact; some folks cannot just define what way their lives are heading right now, as you read on. so, don’t you ever think you are alone in it, the most important thing is to find a way through the situation, event, or feeling that’s held you captive.

Here are four steps to attaining a rewarding life style

Shift your mindsets-:  The mind is where everything starts from. It begins with you, creating pictures around your thoughts. These pictures you create make or mar your thought process, which eventually is released through your feelings. You need to shift your mindset to think and do as you want and not as dimmed ‘okay’ by anyone else.  You have to believe in yourself and look within to find and listen to your very real voice.

Practice acceptance:  One of the reasons we get overwhelmed by feelings of unhappiness, lack of fulfilment, frustration and even depression is because we always expect things to turn out just as we want. You must know that change is a permanent feature of life and we cannot the course of events sometimes. It’s a bitter pill to swallow that tragedies may fall our paths, disasters will happen but when we cannot help it, then, it is better accepted. The more we practice acceptance with minor issues, to the greater ones, the better person, we will become.

Know your limits – Are you a perfectionist? Do you believe in changing other people so that things will go the right way? I bet you will always get hurt, frustrated and sometimes dragged to insanity. Knowing that you have no control over other people’s actions, thoughts and attitudes will enable you focus on the right path. The only person you have control over is yourself and that is where the change should begin. Learn to start responding to people and the different attitudes you come by, instead of reacting to them. Deliberately choose the emotions you want to live with and practise  daily with this technique. If you committ to it, you will be able to decide how to live your daily life in the best way possible.

Learn to detachment  -: “No condition is permanent”, this is a cliché and you must be tired of it by now. However, it remains the truth that no situation, circumstance or event will last forever and indeed no  human being will remain the same forever. That is why we start life as babies into being toddlers and gradually into old age. I’m not saying this is automatic but when a person sees it through to old age, it goes the same way.  Having this in mind, you must know that there are times when you have to let go of those things or people you love but can no longer have. This consciousness will carve your essence in a special way, enabling you grow well in body, mind and soul.

5 Best ways to attain freedom

20130617_191052When we talk about freedom, some people think of it as the inability to do what you want to do at the time you want to do it, or some restrain over your movement and some activities that marks your existence. It only takes you to genuinely think deep and look in wards, where you will find that your freedom lies right there with you because freedom resides within.

A lot of people make excuses for their lack and inefficiencies due to a need for freedom to do some things or through restrains or limitations from some quarters. By taking advantage of the little space nature has provided you, and believing in the iota of freedom that you can perceive, you can soar and create unimaginable possibilities in your life that soon, your wings will grow fat and you will be able to spread them high enough that no gravity can pull them down.

With a free mind and spirit, and the perception that the space you own can turn dreams into reality, you will be able to see beyond your closed gates and begin to expand your consciousness to explore new ways of doing things and allowing new thoughts of how to lead a more fulfilling life by setting better goals with a mindset that you will do all you can with heavier strides to achieve these goals.

The more you practice your freedom whether for your business, career or personal life needs, the wider your world grows and the bigger your views and ideas become. There is no doubt that while you take these strides, you may be pulled to look backwards on days when things are not propelling the right way, don’t forget that with every effort comes a reward. You can only strive ahead to get better and never let slips and falls sink you deep. To fully achieve your goals of expressing your freedom and doing those things you want to do, you’ve got to be ready to be exceptional. So, do you have what it takes?

All you need are these steps:

Adapt your lifestyle and free your imagination – Make the best use of your potentials with as little as your imagination can begin the journey for you. No matter how big your ideas are, don’t be afraid to put on those positive actions to kick off your first few steps that could open the way for incredible possibilities. Do not say that your ideas are too big for you to find a starting point, nor should you think that your ideas are so insignificant to doubt its success. Do as much research as you can, and find the best way to bring your ideas alive. Do not mind having to start the journey with very tiny steps, the most important thing is for you to start and be steadfast. 

Learn to control obsession: Don’t be obsessed with a particular life style or habit except it boosts your imagination positively and give your life the texture you want. When you become obsessed with certain things, habits or people, you lose your freedom to think and act as you wish.

Avoid being held hostage by unwanted memories:   Don’t allow past events and circumstances hold you down or bar you from expressing yourself and do not take cognizance of discouraging comments or opinions. If you take such too seriously you will be flown away by the destructive winds of dejection, because you will only concentrate on your failures and not the good things about your ideas. However, take a close look at honest and constructive criticisms; they are not usually hard to notice.

 

Be definite: Know what you want. Make your mind up on what changes you desire and the freedom you’re seeking. If you are clear of what you want from the outset, you will be able to outline ways you want to go about achieving it. Although at first, you may not be completely clear of the steps to take to achieve what you want, but the most important thing is for you have precise idea of what you want and why you want it.

 

Be cautious: In seeking your freedom, be mindful that you respect the freedom of others along your path. In whatever aspect you seek freedom, consider other people around you that they may learn from you or benefit positively from your discoveries and adventure. “For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others”.
Nelson Mandela

5 Best ways to attain freedom

When we talk about freedom, some people think of it as the inability to do what you want to do at the time you want to do it, or some restrain over your movement and some activities that marks your existence. It only takes you to genuinely think deep and look in wards, where you will find that your freedom lies right there with you because freedom resides within.

A lot of people make excuses for their lack and inefficiencies due to a need for freedom to do some things or through restrains or limitations from some quarters. By taking advantage of the little space nature has provided you, and believing in the iota of freedom that you can perceive, you can soar and create unimaginable possibilities in your life that soon, your wings will grow fat and you will be able to spread them high enough that no gravity can pull them down.

With a free mind and spirit, and the perception that the space you own can turn dreams into reality, you will be able to see beyond your closed gates and begin to expand your consciousness to explore new ways of doing things and allowing new thoughts of how to lead a more fulfilling life by setting better goals with a mindset that you will do all you can with heavier strides to achieve these goals.

The more you practice your freedom whether for your business, career or personal life needs, the wider your world grows and the bigger your views and ideas become. There is no doubt that while you take these strides, you may be pulled to look backwards on days when things are not propelling the right way, don’t forget that with every effort comes a reward. You can only strive ahead to get better and never let slips and falls sink you deep. To fully achieve your goals of expressing your freedom and doing those things you want to do, you’ve got to be ready to be exceptional. So, do you have what it takes?

All you need are these steps:

 

Adapt your lifestyle and free your imagination – Make the best use of your potentials with as little as your imagination can begin the journey for you. No matter how big your ideas are, don’t be afraid to put on those positive actions to kick off your first few steps that could open the way for incredible possibilities. Do not say that your ideas are too big for you to find a starting point, nor should you think that your ideas are so insignificant to doubt its success. Do as much research as you can, and find the best way to bring your ideas alive. Do not mind having to start the journey with very tiny steps, the most important thing is for you to start and be steadfast.  

Learn to control obsession: Don’t be obsessed with a particular life style or habit except it boosts your imagination positively and give your life the texture you want. When you become obsessed with certain things, habits or people, you lose your freedom to think and act as you wish.

Avoid being held hostage by unwanted memories:   Don’t allow past events and circumstances hold you down or bar you from expressing yourself and do not take cognizance of discouraging comments or opinions. If you take such too seriously you will be flown away by the destructive winds of dejection, because you will only concentrate on your failures and not the good things about your ideas. However, take a close look at honest and constructive criticisms; they are not usually hard to notice.

 

Be definite: Know what you want. Make your mind up on what changes you desire and the freedom you’re seeking. If you are clear of what you want from the outset, you will be able to outline ways you want to go about achieving it. Although at first, you may not be completely clear of the steps to take to achieve what you want, but the most important thing is for you have precise idea of what you want and why you want it.

 

Be cautious: In seeking your freedom, be mindful that you respect the freedom of others along your path. In whatever aspect you seek freedom, consider other people around you that they may learn from you or benefit positively from your discoveries and adventure. “For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others”. Nelson Mandela

Why you must not dwell in the past

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Time will always pass by, actions will follow but only how you juggle on memories will determine what you want to take along.  We obviously know that our past is gone and the events that formed the past can never be redone. The good, the bad, the beautiful or the ugly; they’ve already occurred; and all over now. What is important whenever we reminisce on our past is to make it as productive and relevant as possible to our present. While you cannot change what has happened, you can change how you think about it.

Usually, when you think about the past and allow the positive events to dominate your thoughts, the tendencies are that; you will likely be grateful for those happy moments and probably imagine reliving it which may result in another emotion of self-pity knowing very well you cannot relive the past. In some cases, it helps you think of ways to improve your present so that the happiness continues. On the contrary, if your memories of the past tilt more towards the events you termed negative, unless you deal with the emotions associated with those events with great responsibility, you will continue to carry them with you into the present moment and perhaps for as long as you live. To a large extent, if you failed to resolve issues of the past, the memories of such experiences may affect your personal, spiritual and emotional functionalities. For instance if as a child, you were greatly abused, molested or had been harshly criticized and failed to deal with it earlier on, you are more likely to become very defensive and insecure in your adult life, which in essence becomes part of you and a way of life.

When you do not let go of tales of unhappiness, resentment, or rejection that filled your past you find it increasingly difficult to merge present activities to your dreams, sometimes the feelings you hold on to from your past experiences even deter you from aspiring as high as possible, having allowed those emotions of fear, revenge, guilt, blame or insecurity, to affect other areas of your life; which may include your relationships with people, attitudes, business and money matters.

Undoubtedly, many of us have events, situations or people in our histories, which still evoke some emotions in us, but there is always time to work on such emotions in order to move beyond it. Maybe you have gone through some tough times that still speak “terror” to your present moments and you believe you can never live beyond the vestiges of that? Or are you finding it hard to forgive yourself for something you did years ago, and the guilt will not just fade? All you need do is, to take hold of your present moments, and believe in yourself and your ability to overcome, the effects of your past.  The mistakes of yesteryear, either by you or other people, that have deposited a great deal of negative feelings within your body and soul, could be transformed from a severe liability into a valuable asset.

While you could successfully do away with your feelings of anger, revenge, guilt, blame or fear, you simply didn’t because there is a reward from holding onto your pain.

You gain a lot from the thrill of the story. By having the story to tell, you derive some pleasure and get accepted by others and perhaps more sympathy, but wait a minute; what value has the attention, sympathy or even the hatred you feel added to your existence?

There is no harm in telling stories of your past but not in a way to allow you to whirl in your self-pity, or make others feel sorry for you because this simply puts you down and draw you back into unpleasant meditations. Why not choose to use your past as a resource for progress rather than a pool for pain? Why not choose to use your past as a sort of benchmark, counting your blessings on how well you have transformed your past into an inspiration for others? Many people are comfortable making themselves feel bad and do so at any opportunity. No matter what acknowledgement and attention you receive from sinking yourself into the ludicrous slush of sad tales, it can’t be as gainful as directing all your energies to your present moment, striving with focus for a greater tomorrow.

 

Tips to help you get over the past

Make amends where possible – If you need to make an apology for a past event and you really know it is possible for you to do so, then go ahead and set your mind free. Say sorry to whom you think deserves it. However, if you require an apology, don’t demand it except it is given voluntarily, don’t get stuck to the idea that you deserve an apology and not tendered. You often get disappointed expecting some people to do the right things. It keeps you stuck and away from achieving something greater. Take your mind off it and deem it inessential, because not until you cut that chain, you cannot move forward. The process of making amends continue as you constantly aim to improve on our attitudes, behaviours, and a change in your outlook of the past in ensuring that the grievous harm from the past is totally erased.

Remember the past without strong emotions – Try as much as you can, not to revisit your past morbidly or needlessly.  You should practice letting go of the feelings that bring back the hurt you knew before and always view your past from a perspective that will make it as harmless as possible to you. See your past as a storehouse of knowledge and information which can help you make connections to elevate your self-esteem, courage and confidence.

Need for acceptance– You have to accept the past, appreciate the experiences and acknowledge the lessons you have been able to learn from such experiences as all those will impact on your actions towards the positive changes required. You will then begin to tell just a story from one mile of the journey of your life and nothing more, simply accepting without condition and the more you accept, you become more accepting and forgiving to and of others.

Forgiveness- when you forgive you clear the way to attract happiness and abundance into your life because mustering hatred or resentment towards those who have wronged you will only blur your view towards what goodness can be learnt from your past experiences which you can turn into positive venture. Forgiveness allows you to grow not only in wisdom; it also strengthens your values as an individual.

“When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.” –Bernard Meltzer

Get creative:  Rather than hold yourself down on the memories of the past, find something positive to occupy your mind with whenever the thoughts begin to roll in.  You could start a project which will always keep you busy and get you aiming higher. You could join a club, belong to a group that interests you, watch your favourite movie, write songs, poems, stories or any craft you fancy. You could also use your mobile phone to engage yourself positively, or chat to the loved ones that bring you joy.

No matter what your past experiences may be, you can live happier, without any grudge against yourself and anyone else by being in control of your actions, emotions and decisions and by accepting that your past had been what it was, simply because nature wanted it so. You have choices with your present moment and you can make the best use of the tools you now have.

6 golden rules of time management

Time is going, yet moves not

Race against time, still cannot catch.

Motionless as may be, its speed I dare not match

Time is going, yet moves not.

What is it about time that we often find ourselves struggling with it? After all, time is our opportunity. It is the privilege of the period we have to exist and do what we want to do. We should be in control of our time, though not in a way to be accurate about every detail of our everyday events, but definitely in some other ways that put us above the struggling edge. The fact that we cannot hold down time and make use of it as frivolously as we wished is absolutely what gave time the edge over us. No wonder there is so much about the ‘big thing’ TIME. Time is precious and time is the absolute factor we run our lives on. It is almost everything. A time to laugh and a time to cry, a time to be serious and a time to play, there is about time for everything. How conscious are you about the privilege of the time you have?

Time management in the professional sense of it, is just but the process of exercising conscious control over your allocated work time with regards to specific activities, especially to increase efficiency or productivity. In situations like this, you talk about planning, organizing, scheduling, and prioritizing tasks- all these are office jargon.

How do you use your everyday time? Is it possible to turn your time into such that will become effective and very fulfilling?

How well do you seek to spend your time? Do you always look for time to chat away and get drenched in unending wrangling? Or is it work without limits? There is no doubt times are stiff now, but remember time will always throw back what you throw at it. If you believe in managing your time properly to accommodate responsible working, quality time with friends and family as well as other squares you have to attend then, you can make it. Good management of time and resources help create a balance in your work, social and spiritual life, and striking this balance, is what tells how dignifying an individual is. It is good to take advantage of the time we have to do what ought to be done. By this I mean don’t leave what you have to do today till tomorrow, because tomorrow may be too late. “Make hay while the sun shines”. Don’t postpone the start date of a project you want to start today till tomorrow, because the opportunities present today, may not be available tomorrow. If you are planning to make some amends with an old friend, family members or other loved ones, do it now, the opportunity you have now may cease to be there later. Tell someone you love them, show appreciation to those who deserve it and begin to make your mark where you believe necessary, for time waits not, even though we are the ones running.

A lot of people complain of lack of time as being a reason for not achieving some goals or starting off purported projects. I do not see this as true, even if it tends to be in the short run, it must not in the long run. At some point, you must be able to make time out for whatever you aim to achieve. For you to make great use of your time and achieve the balance you need in your life; these are five golden rules for you to follow.

Know your goals

What do you want to do within your time frame? Ask yourself what specific tasks are there for you to carry out to meet whatever you want to achieve; it may be things to do at work, going to the club after work, attend some worship centres, take your family out, hang out with friends, etc no matter how many, the important thing is first, to have the big picture of the things you would like to do to have the desired balance in your life. Once you can fit yourself into the big picture, you will then begin to work out some short-term and medium-term goals.

Things to do list

Making a list of all the activities you will like to include in your life to achieve your desired results is a great way to get you started with effective time management. Your ‘things to do list’, will help you stay organised and in control of your projects, tasks and time. With this, you will remember everything you need to do, without having to scramble over anything or loosing track of your tasks.

Prioritize your tasks

Spending extra time at work does not necessarily mean delivering good quality of job. However, delivering good quality job will definitely mean time well spent. So, once you have been able to list out all you want to do, now rearrange them in an order of importance, so the very important once get done in good time, taking them one after the other. Note that some tasks are urgent and important, while some are urgent but not important. It is better to comply with the importance of a task and not its urgency, after all, if it is not important, it may as well be delayed. Once you do your list, you will have all these to define and deal with. This arrangement will enable you to work smarter and achieve better results with less stress.

Plan and schedule your activities

Make sure you have an organised way to carry out all your planned tasks. For the very urgent and important ones, schedule them first. Allocate a time frame to begin and finish the task. Use a time log to plan all your activities and ensure you keep to your schedules. As you go over and complete any task or activity, strike it out and commence on the next one on the list. This way, you will avoid wasting time and your productivity as well as the fulfillment you derive in achieving your goals will continue to soar and increase your level of motivation.

Do not procrastinate

Sometimes, when you complain of lack of time as one of the reasons for not executing some tasks or projects, it usually is not. Rather, it is because of the fear of starting that task or project itself. It is important that you manage your fear of doing some certain things, by facing up to it and actually including such tasks in your ‘to do’ list and begin to give it a go. When you take one step forward, you will have the drive to continue trying and when you begin to try, you will be amazed what lessons and experiences you will begin to have. These are the forces that make you a better and stronger ‘you’. You always don’t have to win, but it feels great to have tried. Who says you won’t win anyway?

Take a break

Taking time out to relax and cool off is way to re-energize you. By the time you get back to work, you feel refreshed and probably fuelled with more ideas and renewed focus. When you plan for your break it also serves as a motivation towards achieving some goals and help you break up your work into more manageable chunks. Good time management helps in concentrating on important, urgent and non-urgent, activities at well designed time, making no activities ever becoming too tedious or stressful.