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You see, when I speak about confidence, I speak about that confidence that helps you speak to that person, even though they are well-known and have following, many times fold than you do and you know could help you. The confidence of knowing you are enough and you don’t need to prove anything to anyone. The confidence that helps you believe more in yourself, knowing that rejection, no matter how frequent, is just to build you bolder. The confidence of, “I’m open to learning, it’s just the best way to grow if you’re wise”. The confidence that makes you vulnerable and strong at the same time. I speak about that confidence that helps you make that call and chat to the guy who’s going to approve your proposal and once that rapport is built you’re done. I speak of that confidence, which gives you the edge and faith to do it anyway, even though you’re thinking that you’re not fit and qualified but you slammed it when you gave it a shot. I am talking about that confidence that suddenly gets you in the boardroom with executive clients that took you years to figure out, just because of that one call that you made or perhaps, that Facebook messenger text…
I’m talking about that confidence that helps you turn practice in into profits in hours and suddenly turns what you once thought impossible or feared intensely, into your ultimate reality.
It works for me!
It’s all in your daring to dare. 


Why do you think you are the right candidate for this role?

Why do you think you are the right candidate for this role?

This is one of the most common questions recruiters ask applicants, if they ever get shortlisted to this stage of the interview process. Surprisingly, many leaders get to be asked this same question as they rise in ranks and begin to command authority, but not very many seem to bother to answer; most especially, when it is muttered beneath the breath of their team members.

Truly, as a leader, do you honestly ask yourself, if you’re the right person to be holding your position? Great leaders reflect on their everyday performance by engaging in a lot of self-awareness exercises, listening more than they speak and asking for feedbacks, as well as engage their team members in constructive feed forward process, which makes everyone resoundingly be on the same page with the goals, visions and expectations of the team.

How do you continuously demonstrate that you are indeed right to be a leader? What examples do you constantly lay down, for how things should be done? What sort of influence do you have on the people with whom you work?  

These are three key questions every leader must be able to clearly answer, for an insight into how deserving you are, of having people to lead.

 What most leaders don’t understand is that the outcomes of their team members, in terms of the goals achieved, results recorded, income generated, customer satisfaction, etc., is a direct reflection of the leadership quality.

Whilst most of us, as leaders, believe in the power and the opportunity to appraise team members, review their performance and perhaps judge behaviour, maybe an in depth investigation of, “what about me, is being reflected here?”, should be a point of reckoning, when next you need to carry out any of these leadership tasks.

It is always rewarding whenever you’re able to reflect on events just gone, achievements in the past year, and consider the learning for you and your team members, which leads to a joint plan of action moving forward. 

How this helped

Over the years, I discovered that being open to discussing leadership skills and how it affects job performance made my team performed better, instead of throwing tasks at them and expect to review performance after tasks have been completed. It became my common practice to remind team members that, e.g., “being able to submit a quality report by deadline, not only shows that you have sound time management skills, it helps you demonstrate that you are preparing yourself for something greater, even if it takes a while.” Instead of just throwing tasks and stipulating that it has to be presented by certain timescale, I attach snippets of what a great outcome would mean to them as individuals, engaging their sense of responsibility and personal accountability. 

Answers to key questions

I genuinely made it a thought point that people are extremely complex to manage and handle. Hence as individuals, we all have different needs, motives, aspirations, abilities and expectations. So, in continuously demonstrating that I deserve to lead the people I lead, I approach each individual as a unique person, understanding well too, that people’s emotions affect their approach to work and their performance at work.

The bottom line to effective leadership is achieving envisioned results. Hence, when I put my focus on a vision, I ensure that I remain tenacious, carrying everyone along to demonstrate that only through dedicated team work can any proven top-notch results can be achieved. I let my team members understand that greatness demands more than your strength, but your ability to work with others, constructively.

If you are not clear on the type to influence you have on your team members, why not ask intentionally, “how do I feel, when I’m engaging, giving tasks, asking for suggestions, asking for help to solve a problem,  or holding a meeting or appraisal or supervision with members on my team? The easier the answers come, the easier it is perhaps for them too to answer similar questions about you and hence, the level of influence you have with them. What feelings go through your team members when you are around or when they remember you’re their leader? I answer these questions with ease and resounding positive energy, not because I don’t have my ups and downs in managing a team of people, whom originally would have loved to have one of them be their leader, before I came to change the picture, appearing after a sudden shake up due to low productivity and performance. Not because it was comfortable having team members, regularly try to point out where I had gone wrong, even when I was figuring out the most effective ways for everyone to maximise their potentials. Yes, it may feel tough initially, but to gain trust and build loyalty, you must be consistent in showing that you also care about their side of the ‘rut’, and not just the capitalist interest of the organisation or about keeping my job. This worked in my favour. 

I can help you do same

If you take time out to really focus on the three key questions I asked above, and find your genuine answers, this can be the start or enhancement of a painless leadership reign for you. The chances are that you are still very defensive, like most leaders are and pointing the blame finger on the inadequacy of your team members. This will not help and you’ll probably stay in the havoc-loop for a longer time.

You may want to do a little reading around the subject of smart leadership, to strengthen these insights or checkout this resource on transformational leadership. This should lead you towards a genuinely diverse team, where everyone has differing strengths and are nurtured as such.

As you may know by now, I have a track record in managing teams and helping senior managers achieve better results from their team effectively, which is why I’m always passionate about talking leadership and I’m always happy to work with you to raise the game with your team members.

I must point out that understanding and embracing the need for optimal consciousness and personal development in my life and business was pivotal to achieving success in effectively managing teams and also building a formidable coaching and training business and this too, I can help you achieve.  If you choose to explore this topic further, I will be happy to share greater insights with you. Why not let’s connect on LinkedIn, or join our community of thriving Stress-Free Business Leaders.

Can Leaders Truly Be Vulnerable?

vulnerability, has always been a topic with different dynamics and
stemming lots of conversations, because many leaders still struggle
with ‘letting it out’, with their team members. Recently, I was
giving a presentation to about two hundred and fifty business
leaders, in the health care industry, and over half of the
participants agreed that they struggle with openly seeking for help
from team members and worse still, are not comfortable talking to
team members about organisational challenges, apart from discussing
general and specific productivity and performance related issues with

Over 70% of the
participants believed that when they sit around the table with team
members and say things like, “We have a problem reaching our
targets and all our strategies seem to have failed, who has any ideas
to help us move forward?” They are seen to be pushing management
responsibilities on the entire team or giving room for team members
to take undue advantage in carrying out duties or abiding with
policies and procedures, as a comeback for helping out during the
crisis period.

No doubt,
hierarchical structures in organisations have long, held leaders from
fully being authentic, in showing up as real leaders, as this may be
seen as less professional or breaking boundaries. In reality, the
lack of genuine team building activities in organisations, has done
more harm than good, as this reduces staff engagement levels to the
core, which causes the stillness in motivation and inspiration.

Unfortunately, the
lack of understanding of what constitutes staff engagement has made
it impossible for leaders to be able to connect with their team
members, and get the best from them. Instead, leaders build a wall
of seclusion, which translates to the team members, as “they know
it all, they have it all”, causing stronger disconnection and
unrealistic and grandiose expectations by employees and when these
are not met, the cycle of low morale and low performance continues to
be deeply entrenched within the organisation.

Where does
vulnerability lie, here? Vulnerability lies in the fact that leaders
are unable to maintain genuine connections with team members, and
genuine connections are things that engage and make team members feel
part of the organisation they work for. It is absolutely correct
that, engagement can have a significant impact on the performance of
the organisation, driving bottom‐line profit and enabling
organisational agility, as well as improved efficiency in driving
change initiatives.

To be able to lead effectively, leaders must be able to demonstrate empathy, which helps
you understand others’ situations, thereby making it easy for you
as the leader to tailor team members’ strengths and weaknesses via
the best channels for maximum productivity and performance. In doing
this, you must be willing to trust team members enough, to assign
tasks that will challenge and bring the best out of them, yet
empowering them in dignifying ways. To achieve these with little or
no stress, you must be willing, as a leader, to give a piece of your
self by being vulnerable. Brené Brown, an expert on social
connection, conducted thousands of interviews to discover what lies
at the root of social connection. The research revealed that
vulnerability, was a key factor in building great connections, both
in the professional and personal world. Vulnerability here does not
mean being weak or submissive. To the contrary, it implies the
courage to be yourself. It means understanding the truths in our
world. Which is, ability to come to terms with uncertainty, risk, and
emotional exposure, and when a leader is open to this, impacting
others and making change, becomes seamlessly within grip.

Here are few tips to
cultivate vulnerability as your strength:

Admit that you do
not know everything and don’t have the solution to every problem –
Being able to admit and share times of weakness, as a leader, will
earn you trust and present you as being authentic. Creating a stance
of ‘ know it all’, only shows that you’re claiming to be
perfect, which in the real sense, is just an illusion. Showing
weakness and not hiding from imperfection lets others know that you
are simply human.

responsibility when mistakes occur – You will protect your
credibility as a leader, when you are able to accept responsibility,
when you make errors, instead of finding someone else to blame it on.
Leaders who play the blame game, only have very little time, before
they lose credibility and loyalty. Further, taking responsibility,
gives you a sense of leadership that allows you to take time to
analyse and consult on how to make progress towards accomplishing the
goals set.

Practice empathy –
People who are skilled at understanding others’ feelings and
situations are more likely to be viewed as effective leaders. A study
by MRG found that empathy was the single strongest predictor of
ethical leadership, which is why leaders who are empathetic, are able
to motivate teams to do their best work, because they create an
atmosphere that is non judgemental, but empowering.

Don’t wait for the
company to crash before you seek help, suggestions or tell your team
members the truth about the situation- Teams are the greatest assets
any organisation have and to add value to these assets, leaders must
build teams that are formidable, effective and trustworthy. This can
only be achieved if team members are treated with trust, a sense of
value and are well supported to deliver their tasks to the best of
their abilities. Leaders who build their teams on very strong
precepts, will have no fear or guilt, telling them the truth about an
organisation’s standing when crisis arise, because they would all
have been working under shared terms.

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Five Ways You Can Propel Your Self -Worth For Success

Do you know that constantly worrying about what others think about you or the way you live your life, is self-debilitating, particularly when you know that you’re doing no harm to anyone? So, why seek approval and recognition? You don’t need it!

Stop getting overwhelmed by the expectations of others, instead, live your life purposefully, believing in your everyday actions. What’s the point of you looking everywhere for approval, when the best insights and approval for what’s great and not lies, right in your heart. Too many times, you disapprove of yourself or even criticise your efforts just because you set your standards and validate your actions by what you see and hear from other people.

So, what happens when you do that? You run your emotions high, causing inner conflicts that do nothing but increase distraction and distort your ability of intense focus on what’s important and what matters most, which is why your desires don’t match your results and realities. By setting parameters that don’t align with your truth, you jeopardise your efforts, bring upon yourself, a great deal of self doubt, low self – confidence, low self-esteem and self-sabotage, because you unconsciously disempower your thoughts to think the magnitude of your strength.

To amp up your confidence and propel your self worth, take a five day challenge, that will help you achieve your goals and ensure your success.

Here are five other things you need to do.

Love yourself endlessly: You should understand that no matter how hard you try, no one can love you more than they love themselves, which is why you should love yourself unconditionally, to save yourself. When you are able to love yourself without limits, you will be empowered with so much abundance that giving back will become effortless. On the other hand, not loving yourself will continue to spill out the lack in you, and no matter how hard you try to hide, it rears its ugly head in different areas of your life and the worst bit is that, you will not serve your interest and will not be of great service to others, even those you care about.

Challenge your inner critic – There’s always a voice inside us telling us we can’t do it right, or that we’re not fit for the challenge. Yes! We all have that voice creeping in every now and then, but the truth is, the voice continues to rant and gain power, when we allow it. This voice means good, though, trying to protect you from what does not seem familiar and comfortable. It tries to keep you safe by putting you in a ‘no contest mode’, so that  you don’t fret and get blown away by the size of the greatness that lies ahead of you. However, Staying in this ‘no contest zone’, only separates you and your possibilities, and if you must achieve your goals and live far beyond the limits your inner critic wants to cap on you, then you must challenge it, each time it tries to keep you bound to letting go of your dreams.

Set yourself up for success –   What’s your biggest win so far? How many times do you motivate yourself with your previous wins, as an incentive to believe in your abilities and strive forward. Most times, when we feel less confident, it is based on reflections about the times we failed or when our performance did not measure up. So, next time when you’re feeling less confident, anchor your courage to push harder with a sweet memory of when you were successful, no matter how long or how insignificant the achievement may seem to you.

Never stop learning: You may wonder how learning connects with boosting self worth and confidence, but it sure does. Knowledge is the one thing you possess and no one can snatch away from you. You express yourself with what you know, both internally and externally and can also use your knowledge as a tool of empowerment and also to help others. All of these are things that will in turn increase your self-worth and confidence.

Believe in yourself: Get tips here on how to believe more in yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself, of course no one else will and this starts from your willingness to give yourself the opportunity to try new things without judgement and also to know that you are not infallible. The amount of times you’re willing to give yourself another chance, regardless, will invariably show how willing you are to strengthen your strengths and eventually begin to show up and achieve whatever goals or dream you want to achieve in the end.

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Seven ways to turn your secret idea into a reality

Do you have a secret desire you want to achieve, that makes you fret when you have to tell people about it? Or are you so scared that you find it hard to talk about it to others, so that they don’t say you are weird or put you down for it? The truth is, we all have some secret desires that we want to accomplish at some point in our lives, but due to fear of failure or rejection, we allow our dreams go under. Making a choice between doing what it takes and going head on to achieve our goals and allowing fear and judgements from other people hold us back, is such a great choice, which is why many people choose to stay with the crowd, because that is an easier but more costly choice.

When you allow external influences overshadow your intuitive instincts, you will be forced to buy into their lifestyle, problems and patterns, killing your alternative thinking ability, hence making you develop a thinking error, known as mere-exposure effect. This refers to the brain’s tendency to believe something is true and good just because we are familiar with it, regardless of whether the situation is actually true and good.

Sometimes, it’s the negative thoughts of how less capable you are, or how inexperienced and other related lines of thoughts that hold you down and even makes you quit. Thinking negative thoughts is no doubt a killer and allowing to germinate in your mind is like building a house in a swamp, sooner or later, it will sink in and get lost, underneath. To avoid that, make a habit of consciously stopping negative thoughts from your mind, when they creep in.  

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5 Sure Fire Ways to promote Your Website For free

Getting found on the internet is the hallmark of any online
business, as this is how millions of audience can get to know and do business
with your company.  Take online
visibility as the navigation to locate you on the map. Imagine you were going
somewhere you’d never been before  and necessarily
don’t have specifics about it, so you just typed in a general location or place
in your navigator, definitely, it’s going to give you a list of related
locations,  and then you will choose
exactly where you are going or the closest result.

In the same way, people looking for businesses like yours
would type in a general term relating to your business and will have to choose
from the results they get-  so, your duty
is to ensure that you find a place in these results, otherwise no one will be
able to find your business.

In essence, the more visible your company is, online, the
more likely people within your industry will look to you for necessary products
or services.

Many small business owners struggle with this aspect of
online marketing and think it’s confusing and that’s because there is too much
information on the internet without clear explanation.

In this article, I will share five simple ways you can
increase your company’s online visibility for free, yet with great results.

Utilize SEO tools: SEO- stands for Search Engine
Optimization, and since we are talking about searching and finding your website
online, I guess you know that SEO is indeed very important and the way you do
this is by injecting content and key words that points back to your website on
the internet. You can use different free online tools to check how well your
website comes on in search results and when you know this, you constantly
improve your visibility using these other methods. There are hundreds of free SEO
tools online, including the Google webmaster and analytics and Bing web master
tools, to monitor analytics and performance of your website. Check out other
ways to improve your online visibility here.

Publish fresh, relevant content regularly:
Ensure that you publish fresh content on your website regularly and also update
your content from time to time. Google crawls all websites on the internet for
fresh and new content, which is what will help your website to rank higher on
Google search algorithm. Except people specifically know your website, they
would only type in general terms, phrases or words in Google search engine and
this will only populate the most relevant ones. So, to regularly appear in
searches relating to what you do, updating your website with relevant content
is crucial.

digital content on external sites: Publish value added materials such as
videos, images, slides, PDFs and audios on external websites such as Youtube,
Google images, slideshare, and the likes. Your content gets to much more
audience, promoting your website and also giving you backlinks in search engines

Do social – Social media is a must if you must
continue to attract fans and online subscribers to your brand. While your
online fans may not necessarily become customers, it’s a good place to
demonstrate your expertise and authority in your industry.

Use outbound and inbound links so Google can
index cached pages: This is a great way to appear well in Google’s search.
Outbound link is when you add external link to content on your site, pointing
to other domains and websites. When you link out to related domains, it not
only helps the search engine to understand your niche, but also helps to
increase the trust and quality of your site which plays a vital role in your website’s
SEO. Inbound links on the other hand is when you have links from other sites
linking back to your website and this can be obtained free in a number of ways.
You can do this by writing guest posts on other websites or by placing details
about your website on other website, thereby, giving you backlinks. These links
also raise your website’s visibility when done well.

For more ways to increase your company’s online visibility,
check out these resources. Know that this takes time and it requires consistent
action, if you want your company to continuously be visible online. 

Field Notes: CMS Africa Summit

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Automatticians, the people who build WordPress.com, participate in events and projects around the world every day. Periodically, they report back on the exciting things they do in the community.

This year’s CMS Africa Summit was my third attendance at this amazing conference. My colleagues Marjorie, Sarah, Hannah, and Luminus joined me for the event and in doing so we sent Automatticians from three different continents.

Democratizing eCommerce

For several years now, Automattic has been the title sponsor for CMS Africa Summit. After conferences in Kenya (2015) and Uganda (2016), the 2017 edition took place in Abuja, Nigeria. The team behind the summit consists of industry leaders from all three of those countries. Together they also represent some of the world’s most popular open source content management systems (CMSs): Joomla, Drupal, and (of course) WordPress.

As one of the tech hubs in Sub-Saharan Africa, Nigeria is leading

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Why niche marketing is important


What is niche marketing and why is it important?  Niche marketing is the conscious effort of defining the specifics of your target market in order to tailor your services towards them. In other words, it is simply your ability to identify and outline who your main customers will be and target your marketing efforts and products/services towards that group.

It is interesting that a lot of people go into business without a clear knowledge of whom their products/services will serve once they start their business, which accounts for why so many businesses fail to thrive. When you lack the sound knowledge of who you want to sell to and what you want to sell, how do you know who to approach in other to introduce, advertise or market what you do or what you have?

Knowing your target market has to be a deliberate thing that you will do to come to terms with your potential customers. Hence, you have to carefully craft your specific services, strategically, so that you don’t wear yourself out. Hence, you need to map out ‘your own people’ out of the entire global population as well as know the specifics and limits of what you will be selling them. In doing this, you have to consider what type of business you do, what products or services you want to deliver, whose problem will your product solve? Who will be paying for your products/services? What part of what region do they live in? What age range, why will these people want to pay for your product/services, etc.

Another common mistake in defining your niche is drawing out customers who are vague and rather too large. For example, if you sell women’s lingerie and because every woman definitely has to wear one, if so, you then decided that your target market is ‘women ages 16-60’.  This target market may be too wide and you can never find a strategy to effectively market your products. To niche your market and capture your ideal customers, you need to break down the demographics of who you specifically want to sell your products to, based on the quality, styles, size range and a few other technicalities affecting your product chain. A better way to niche your market will be to say, “creating lingerie for college and university students”, or “lingerie for young executive women”.


Here are four important reasons you should niche your market:

You cannot afford to sell to everyone:  You will be putting too much pressure on yourself, trying to serve everyone. Instead of assuming that you can potentially sell to everyone, it will do you a great good to specialize your efforts, products /services towards a certain group which you can concentrate on and tailor your products/services towards. As you work hard mapping out your specific market, you will soon find out what is important to them, what makes them do certain things and why they are who they are.

Ability to create your identity: By defining your niche market, you will be able to create an identity for you and your business, which will help you better position your business effectively.  With your identity, you will pave way for people to understand you for what you do and what you and your business stand for.

Focus: With your specific market in mind, you will be able to focus and create solutions specifically meant to solve their problems, and as you do that, your attention grows and enhances the quality of your products/services.There will be less competition, as you provide specific services or create specific products for specific people, in a specific way. The BIG advantage of that is that it can’t be easily replicated!

 Easy and effective marketing: Niche marketing will help you target your potential customers and help you create marketing strategies that will be highly effective because you know who you are communicating to and how best to get your messages across to them. People with similar interests behave and are attracted to similar things, so it’s easier crafting your marketing mix.

How to know when to quit

time to quit pixIt’s been three months and two weeks and right now I’m feeling utterly frustrated with a project I’ve been working on. I accepted to join my colleague on her project because I thought she will inspire me more for a similar project I will be starting soon and on the other hand she wanted my support for her project. For me, I thought I will spend a bit of my spare time helping out and expanding my knowledge and trying out something new so, I accepted. I knew the project will turn out commercially viable, but did not bother to set specific structure to work with her. Why? Because she is my colleague and I was in the project for nothing other than help out, have fun and explore. Three months into the project, I realized I had invested more time than I had planned to do, with virtually no financial or moral reward and seriously eating up my time, that my other work suffer. At this point you may already begin to judge me but wait a minute. There was absolutely nothing stopping me from checking my inputs and making the necessary adjustments and balance that I needed and there is no maximum price for keeping a relationship, I was just uncomfortable with events as I was sabotaging my productivity with regards to my personal business and other work related issues. However, my friend was enjoying my support and I was seeing how much it meant to her to have her project completed at the right time. So, I continued to squeeze on. Near completion; as a matter of fact, completed, just the very last bit and my friend thinks the best thing to do now is to introduce her partner’s similar project into the scene and even telling me that it will be fine if we could finish her partner’s project in less time than we did hers. Brilliant idea, isn’t it? Then I knew exactly what was happening. No consideration whatsoever for me, because I failed to make my feelings known. But who’s to blame? Definitely me!
How incredible it is that some people do not consider others when they set out to fulfil their dreams or have their goals accomplished. You may have come across a similar situation but in a different way. It could be from work colleagues, friends, bosses, families, etc. Taking you for granted for the services you render out of sheer goodwill or even when your services are paid for, should have no place in your understanding, if you are looking any further to happiness and success in life. It definitely does not match the hard work you put in and worst of all, people of such attitude just think and behave as if everything is fine. It will forever haunt if you allow that situation to adversely affect any aspect of your life significantly and that’s where quitting comes to life. You always have the reason to quit whatever is not giving you the equilibrium to your emotions and physiology. I know that sometimes, we find it hard to quit something for very many reasons but at the same time, we continue to burn in the flames of our guilt and misjudgements when we fail to identify what’s best for us. In my case, a colleague who does not care for my welfare may as well not be a real one to deal with and the relationship may well have to be re-examined. When your energy is zapped unduly on anything you embark upon, this is one of the vital signs for you to know when to quit something. Think critically about what’s in it and if it doesn’t worth it, don’t force it.
Other signs to look out for when thinking of quitting include:
Regularly get frustrated:
When you are in a situation where all you feel is greater frustration than pleasure, this may mean that your time is gradually winding up and you may never make anything good of that project or situation. When you always feel that you’re no good for something or that your effort is not appreciated or just regularly taken for granted, know that it’s time to pack and go.
Whether your goal still render:
Check your goals and see if you are still on track, check your intentions and make sure nothing is being sabotaged. If you are diverting away from your goals, do a balancing test and go back where you ought to. If you find it impossible to achieve the goal you set for yourself, it’s better you quit and then restart with clearer visions because if you continue and get it wrong, you will start all over again, any way, but think of the time you may have wasted.
Are you true to yourself?
Many people got through a lot of stress for no reason good to their soul except to please others. The truth is you can actually not please anyone if you fail to please your soul. Whether you’re good or bad, people will judge you and sentiments will always sway. When you come to a point to decide whether to quit or not, listen to your heart and be true to yourself. You cannot change what people think about you no matter how hard you try, you can only change and choose how you respond to what people think about you. Accept yourself and be your best.

Stop being a perfectionist:
Do you care to be the best at everything or at least the best at all you do? Have you been hanging on a project, tweaking and adjusting things so that it comes out per-fec-to!? You may think you are putting so much effort at being success, while doing contrary because success does not need perfection. What you are indirectly going through is the fear of failure, which only probably is housed in your thoughts, beliefs and ways of doing things. Quit what is not working and allow yourself a fresh look on how to proceed in life.

When your passion wanes:
Whether it’s your job or working on a project; quitting ultimately may be your best option once your passion fades out. Without genuine passion for something, you are likely never going to be inspired enough to give it your best and when this happens, your efforts and time to continue could be as good as wasted.

Believe in yourself

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It is a fact that to meet some of your life goals, you have to believe in your ability to face the challenges that will come by. Believing in yourself is the greatest weapon to achieving your goals no doubt, but often, low self-esteem and negative thinking can make you to doubt your abilities. It is essential that you live above the fear that is stopping you from believing in yourself, because if you don’t, you can’t get other people to believe in you.  When you believe in your abilities, you can then begin to build your confidence and strengthen your skills.

Self doubt and negative thinking are the two major factors that inhibit your self belief. This is because, self-doubt continuously steals away your confidence while negative thinking suppresses your mind from seeing all your great endowments and abilities.

Do you know that when you look inwards and begin to appreciate yourself, greater discoveries of your hidden treasures will begin to manifest in their multitudes, which will open up the truth about your own special unique attributes.

Every person is different in their own way and we all have what makes us unique as people, which is why you have to believe in yourself, because you have something to offer the world, which no one else has.

Unfortunately though, as much as you try not to allow self-doubt over take your consciousness, it sometimes find its way through and penetrates your reasoning, breaking the grounds on why you are not good enough or not capable of taking that stride you’ve always dreamt of.  It is quite understandable. It’s the fear of something deep. The fear of failure and rejection.

When you constantly fear to fail, invariably, you will fail by giving fear undue power over you. Life is about ups and downs and when you decide not to move ahead because of these slopes, you will find yourself nowhere.  So, you basically need to know that to achieve your goals, you have to decide to take great strides that may sometimes see you waddling  in mud, but you know what, you will feel stronger and better that you strived.

Learning a few tips to help you believe in yourself can make the difference you crave.

Understand your fear: Know exactly what makes you jitter when you think of doing something or achieving a particular goal, because when you can figure out what scares you about something, you will then be able to find ways to tackle the problem. Ask yourself, “why have I not done so and so? “What is stopping me from doing so and so?  If you practically ask yourself questions about why you are not taking actions, the answers will begin to fill up.

Think positive: Positive thinking is a great tool to tackle fear and low self-esteem because when you are able to see the positive side of you, the tendencies are that your abilities, strengths and weaknesses will be rationally judged and thought through. This will lead to clear understanding of what to expect from yourself and may help to decide how much effort you are willing to put through a challenge. Positive thinking helps to break the barriers of low self-esteem, lack of confidence and a lack of drive.

Set realistic goals:  Setting goals are very exciting ways to define what you want in life and are very useful in confidence building. However, fear is so creepy, if granted, will never allow you to set any goals at all.  Using goal setting tools to challenge yourself to action can prove really productive if you set goals that are realistic. Realistic goals are just goals that are attainable and not overtly idealistic. If you aim to build your business empire in as little as two months and hope to make enough profit by the third or fourth month to build 8 more branches around the world, altogether in six months, may be quite whimsy. At the same time, realistic goals are not about how easy you can achieve a goal, but how well the goal has helped you improve in your well-being, personal development, experience, abilities, knowledge, skills, relationship, etc, because if you set a goal that is so easy to achieve, you get anywhere in terms of achieving your overall life goals.

Be assertive–   assertiveness shows that you are able to speak for yourself and stand by your beliefs. Contrary to some opinions, being assertive is not about being rude to others or suppressive. It simply shows that you are confident and clear about what you are saying, doing or the point you are trying to prove. Being assertive rather that passive, will help you make better choices in life, as you will be able to live on your own terms, instead of seeking approval from others about how you want to feel, think or live.

Feed your mind: It is good to know that what you serve to your mind in terms of your thoughts, knowledge, perception of things, life and ways of doing things, all come together to prove your essence and substance. It is good to feed your mind with great knowledge, have wider outlook of issues and things around you, and fill your inner self with esteem and meditation so that you will blossom outwardly.